The Psychology of CFNM

by Ms. Jenna of

The nude body has inspired fear, awe and many other emotions that are usually both conflicted and repressed. I believe beauty is inherent in all things if you look with what Zen Buddhism refers to as beginners mind. It gives Me great pleasure and delight to have My submissive strip down naked for Me while he’s under My control. I know that having him disrobe is a way to strip him of his worldly persona and symbolically of any residual armor he may have due to his ego. I enjoy the instant attitude adjustment usually accompanied by the barometer of arousal that he’ll shyly try to hide behind his hands. This behavior isn’t permitted and I generally will slap his fingers with My crop and instruct him to put his hands behind his back.

Nakedness Reveals All

It’s My personal belief that CFNM has an appeal for submissives seeking that level of vulnerability with their dominant. A person’s naked body before you reveals all those things he tries to hide. Some people spend their entire life wanting to be heard or to be truly seen truly for who they are as an individual and for others it is their greatest fear. This search usually ends when they are in front of eyes that behold them in all their perfectly flawed beauty and unique complexity. When I look at My nude sub it’s as if he is transparent to Me. I see his breathing, his blushing and of course his level of arousal. Nothing amuses Me more than seeing My naked submissive try to scramble internally to find shelter to hide from Me. Finally all that resistance fades when he comes to the stark realization that there is nowhere to hide and nothing to hold on to ……..there is only surrender in his nakedness and submission to Me.

The Thrill of being Exposed

There is a juxtaposition of emotions and the push and pull of those feelings that are opposed to each other. These feelings later translate to the peace of sub space once he relents to My will instead of harkening to his internal struggle. I enjoy reading his body with My hands. I can find out intuitively what he’s been hiding from Me where his skin gets goose bumps from My touch or how he shivers when I taunt him about his helpless erection. What would inspire someone to seek out such an experience? I believe it’s the thrill of being completely exposed to another human being.

The Tension of Unatainability

CFNM represents the sexual tension of the unattainability of the woman being clothed and the utter vulnerability of the male. The submissive cannot hide his desire from the Mistress. She can take full advantage of his nakedness having free reign over her property to do what She pleases with him. This loss of control and exposure is intoxicating for the nude submissive and soon he finds that he craves only this openness and transparency around his Mistress. CFNM is one of My personal favorite fetishes because I think it’s one of those foundational practices for creating a D/s dynamic that I find very enjoyable and worthwhile to Me when I’m training a submissive.